I’m sure I’m not the only one, who through the force of nature, or better yet Facebook. Have had the pleasure of reconnecting with people from your past & present. I’ve honestly have had nothing but positive experiences through this very popular process. But that was……. until just recently.
Remember that friend I told you about that found me on Facebook after 20 years! 20 years!! Yea, at first, I thought, “WOW! How awesome is this!!”, “I mean, how many people have an opportunity like this!” It’s been 20 years! This is before marriage, before children, before the divorce. Back when I was single & ready to mingle, back when the club scene was my haven, when partying out till dawn was the thing & sleeping the day away, was a fact of life.
So how exciting to reconnect after all these years! At first we did the usual, messages & chats on FB, dropping text messages to see how things were going, etc.. Then right before spring break, she asks if it would be rude if she invited herself to come see me. Ofcourse not! I thought to myself. It’s been like 20 years!! How could I pass up an opportunity like this! There was so much to catch up on! So we made all the arrangements for her & her daughter to come for a visit.
I was soooooooo excited about seeing her again & was so looking forward to catching up on what’s been happening in both our lives. The week prior, we kept playing phone tag & just a few days before her arrival, I FINALLY got a hold of her. It was awesome! We talked about everything, or just about, but wanted to save the nitty gritty stuff for in person. Needless to say, I felt really good how things just flowed between us, as if no time had passed.
Later that evening I go on FB & I see this update she posted, ” I had such hopes of getting things done today, my day off, but ummmmm, not so much, oh well….” I could not believe what I was reading! I was expecting a post like “it was soooo great reconnecting with my old friend today….” or something to that nature. I was in shock! But I kept telling myself, I must be reading to much into it or reading it completely wrong. Things will be A-ok or so I thought.
Needless to say, what I thought was a reuniting between two friends, was nothing but free room & board & a private tourist guide for a mom & her daughter on their spring break. Sooooooooo not how I thought it would be. We never really got a chance to sit down & catch up, it was always, “What’s the plans for today?”, “Where are we going?”, “We’d really like to try this restaurant”….etc…..& who picked up practically every bill, my babez & me. Like wtf?!?!?
We were literally on the go since the minute they stepped off the plane. Now you can ask ANYONE I know, I am a very gracious & attentive host. But in this case however, I made it very evident that I was not pleased with how things were going. I could see taking my guests on some outings, while they are in town. But it shouldn’t have been the ENTIRE agenda. What happened to catching up? What happened to “I’ve been thinking about you a lot over the years & can’t wait to see you.” What a HUGE f!@#$% disappointment! The longest 6 days of my life!!
Lesson learned…. NEVER, EVER accept an invitation from an uninvited guest!